The Emotional Tummy Tuck

What Is The Emotional Tummy Tuck? Do YOU Need One?

People with tummy tucks still feel bad inside

In today’s article from Michelle Bybel a hudson valley holistic health coach she addresses the unmet psychological reasons why people get tummy tucks or liposuction.

Using FOOD as a form of psychological treatment or therapy.

Lets give our attention to Michelle as she discusses this.


 Why am I writing this article? Because it pains me to see so many women who are desperate to lose weight, especially those desperate enough to want to turn to drastic measures such as bariatric or plastic surgery.

While I understand that medical professionals consider procedures like bariatric surgery to be necessary for some people, I can’t help but wonder if this is nothing more than a “medically supervised” quick fix.

Why do I say this? Because I have seen people turn to these risky procedures, only to regain all of the weight they lost and then some. The problem is that these procedures don’t teach you anything – they just “shrink” your stomach so you don’t eat as much. Not to mention the severe side effects, both short- and long-term, that follow this type of procedure.

The bigger problem is that you can easily stretch out your new “small” stomach over time by engaging in the same behaviors that caused you to gain the weight in the first place. There is always a way around everything – you will find a way to eat more, if that is what you want to do.

Why would you want to eat more even after “going under the knife?” Because you haven’t made peace with your relationship with yourself, and food is the coping skill you have used to deal with all of the emotional yuck that has kept you in a state of existing rather than truly living.

Cutting, re-routing, stapling, or adjusting your stomach with a band to make it smaller in a one-day procedure is not the answer. Why? Because you are likely desperate to lose weight and are looking for just about anything to do it. How has this procedure taught you anything different? Is this procedure going to prevent you from making fast food runs, or eating out of frustration, sadness, or anxiety?

I am afraid that this procedure is more of a Band-Aid than a cure. If it was a “cure” for obesity, people would not be regaining the weight after surgery. I just read an article about a woman who was desperate to lose weight and had gastric bypass, and guess what? She gained all of the weight back, and was now embarking on a new journey to lose the weight that has been plaguing her for years in a more natural way.

Just look at celebrities like Carnie Wilson – she underwent bariatric surgery and still struggles with keeping the weight off.

So, what is the cure? Continue reading


The Power of the PAUSE

the power of the pause

How can the POWER of the PAUSE can make a difference in YOUR life?

In the next moment I will share with you the secret to taking back YOUR power.

It only takes a moment.

Yet it helps you clear your thinking.

And allows YOU to maintain control without going to a psychologist.

The SECRET is in The Pause

How can PAUSING help YOU personally?

Mark twains comments on power of the pause

ANA DUTRA TELLS US: how pausing can help YOU to be a better leader:

“At a higher level, as leaders, pausing and reflecting enables us to ask what our role really is, how to more effectively empower others to be the best at the roles they are supposed to play and, therefore, what we should really get involved with. Pause and reflection create space for us and for others — everybody becomes more effective and can grow.”

Are YOU a leader?

  • Are you a parent?
  • A teacher?
  • A manager?
  • A supervisor?
  • A role model?

Can YOU see how this can help you?

Ana goes on to say:

“Pause also creates high quality energy, increasing our resilience as leaders and our ability to deal with more complex issues.”

Taking a moment to pause means looking for ways to  physically, mentally and emotionally take a break.

Ana suggests taking  a walk around the block, taking time to meditate, take time to stretch or exercise, finding a hobby, get a massage and my FAVORITE taking a well deserved coffee break.

REMEMBER their is much power in making time and to empty your mind on your worries, concerns, fears and responsibilities so YOU can afterward reflect and filter issues.

Mary Myers on the power of the pause

How can the power of the Pause help YOU to REDUCE stress in your life?

Mary Myers a holistic therapist in Pine Bush NY tells the story of having a stressful job that would FRAZZLE her at times.

Then one day she and a coworker tried an experiment.

“We set an alarm on my computer to beep every 15 minutes.  Every time it went off, we would stop and stretch, and take three conscious breaths.  This practice allowed us to make practical choices, like evaluate if we had been stuck on one step for too long, whether perfectionism was taking over our work and we needed to move on, or if we even thought this particular thing we were working on was worth keeping.  More importantly though, it allowed us to connect with ourselves as people, as bodies and hearts and minds in a room, in a city, where there was a whole world outside, and to remember that we were not cogs in a machine, or trapped animals, but beings who had the capacity to notice how we were feeling, to shake off a little bit of the stress, smile at one another, and make choices about how we wanted our lives to be.”

What if YOU set an alarm on your computer to do this?

Do YOU think YOU might benefit from using a premeditated Pause in your life?

BTW here is the free software i use to take a break every 15 minutes. ENJOY it!

Mary Myers offers a free mp3 download of the 3 minute breathing exercise to use during your power pause. YOU can get it here.

Suggestions on How and when to use the PAUSE

Cortney Carver suggests “Instead of coming to a full stop, Continue reading

Does Exercise Help Depression?

So Does Exercise Help Depression? Or is it a placebo effect?

Exercise may benefit people suffering from depression, according to the latest research published in The Cochrane Library.

What if instead of being LIMITED to Antidepressants and psychological therapies people used physical exercise as a treatment for depression?

In this review of the research the authors looked at the results of 39 trials involving 2,326 people diagnosed with depression.

In 35 trials comparing exercise with control treatments or no treatment, the researchers saw moderate benefits of exercise for treating depression. Exercise was as effective as psychological therapy or taking antidepressants, although these findings were based on only a few, small, low quality trials.

“Our review suggested that exercise might have a moderate effect on depression,” said one of the authors of the review, Gillian Mead of the Centre for Clinical Brain Sciences at the University of Edinburgh in Edinburgh, UK. “We can’t tell from currently available evidence which kinds of exercise regimes are most effective or whether the benefits continue after a patient stops their exercise program.”

He continued, “The evidence base would be strengthened by further large-scale, high quality studies.”

Notice what other experts say on the matter of whether exercise helps depression:

The mayoclinic tells us:

“Exercise probably helps ease depression in a number of ways, which may include: Continue reading